Terry,
I was not on over the weekend and just saw this but immediately prayed for you, your wife and her mother. I hope all of you are doing better but, if not, our God is also the God of healing broken hearts. I has been just over a month since I lost my wife and I really think all the prayer support made a big difference in the healing that has taken place for me, and our son and daughter. When God does not give us our first choice, it does not mean he has abandoned us.
Praying for the best, however.
Jim